Was your former lover, really something more than a bad romantic choice?
Divorce or separation from your loved one can be one of the biggest challenges that women face today. It is tough for young women to let go off their romantic entanglements. As a sex, they prioritize the idea of marriages, of children so when they find the ideal guy because of whatever sensible reason, separation hits them harder than it does many men because they can see that some of their longstanding dreams will never come true.
But as an individual, it is a good idea to absorb these ‘new realities’ in your life. Except, just how exactly? Divorce rates are significantly falling from the national average (USA!) of slightly higher than 45percent but this doesn’t mean that the challenges to making a relationship work has faded away into nothingness in the 21st Century – the change isn’t that much from the ‘90s.
When you are divorced, one of your first tasks should be to give less of a damn about your former man. It is so easy to say you will never get over him, will still be curious about him but why should you put in that much effort for a has-been? If you have children then focus on those positives in your life because that is one dream you have accomplished and it is also someone you can always count on, unlike a man.
If your children are driving you crazy, then spend time away from them, like on a closeby spa visit and indulge in some fine-luxury treatment for yourself, such as a Swedish massage. When healed, look for another partner – someone you have more in common with, than your previous lover. Don’t be scared! This time you are better prepared!
If during the healing period you have bad thoughts for your former boyfriend, it’s best not to dwell in them because who knows how affected he is or is not by the breakup? The easiest solution is to wallow in self-pity…or watch How To Make An American Quilt, with dark chocolates.