Does Your Wedding Determine If It Will Last?
When I hear of weddings, I want to think of two quintessential British individuals tying the knot. I want to imagine a happy day filled with good food, laughter, champagne and the people important to the couple there at the wedding. Sometimes I do. Many other times I’m faced with a City Hall ceremony, that to me seems lifeless and dull. When couples get married at Vegas, when they elope, naysayers always say it won’t last. I have actually heard of practically no positive comments on that one. City Hall marriages are similarly, viewed as fast and convenient opportunities to appetite infatuation.
There is a lot of prejudice that comes towards a couple, when they separate. It is so hard to find them see things differently and in a mature way. Most women get prejudice from a system that cultivates a patriarch as a protector, as the provider, as the confidant. You might have had this as a rarity in the past and only something that works for strong, sporty, cerebral kids but now even average, arts-inclined (as a hobby), bright kids seem to be going in that direction. They often have to divide their attention inbetween ‘the man’ and ‘the woman’ in their lives and I bet, that gets tiring.
I think it is hard for women to be close to their kids in this climate. Some women, naturally exploit this system that looks upon the mother as the nurturer and the father as the provider. But every case isn’t the same and how will we really know what is the right decision when a couple chooses to separate
What I hate about weddings is when the bride or the bridegroom happens to be a Versace wearing, Oreo-loving, Valentino gowns-worshipping blonde-haired, blue-eyed airhead. Don’t get me wrong! I don’t mind when they take them out for coffee and buttery biscuits, like some secret admirer or some nosey, jealous observer. I just stick up my strong and long “Westminster” nose at the little scene and roll my eyes yet again! I just think the knot is something sacred that a couple should honour. They should try as much as they can to keep their vows. I am all good with most kinds of weddings, except those where a honeymoon in Venice, is replaced by a trip to park to see a friend’s theatre production because she has worked more “hard” at it than “the wedding planner”. But does a kind of wedding really determine, whether or not your marriage will last?